A Close Look at the Sandwich Generation

Adwan
3 min readMar 16, 2023

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Editorial Illustration by El Studio

Fresh From The Kitchen

As I bit into the warm and toasty sandwich, I couldn’t help but think about the layers that made it so delicious. The crisp lettuce, juicy tomato, savory meats, and tangy condiments all melded together in perfect harmony. But as I continued to savor each bite, my thoughts drifted to the layers of generations nowadays. As the journey of life, we often find ourselves sandwiched between various roles and responsibilities.

It’s a thick and thin layer of responsibility that can be both rewarding and challenging, as we strive to find the balance between our familial obligations and our personal aspirations. In this article, we’ll explore what it means to be a part of the sandwich generation and how we can cope with the unique challenges that come with it.

The Origins of Our Food

Let’s talk about our current environment. The term “sandwich generation” refers to people who are simultaneously caring for aging parents and their personal needs at the same time. Here are several factors that contribute to the existence of the sandwich generation that I found:

  • The population has grown rapidly, and life expectancy has increased. More older adults require care and support, and they are living longer than ever before.
  • With families living farther apart, it can be more challenging for the sandwich generation to provide care for their aging parents.
  • Economic pressures, such as rising living costs, job insecurity, and low wages. This can make it difficult for the sandwich generation to provide financial support.
  • There is a strong cultural expectation that children will care for their aging parents. This places an additional burden on the sandwich generation, who may feel a sense of obligation to provide care even if it is financially or mentally challenging.

The Difference in Dishes

There are always pros and cons regarding the points above:

Pros:

  • Can provide emotional and practical support to parents
  • Can ensure that parents’ needs are met
  • Can strengthen the bond between parent and child

Cons:

  • May impact personal life and limit opportunities to socialize or date
  • This may lead to added financial responsibilities
  • Can be emotionally draining and lead to burnout if not balanced properly
  • May limit the independence and autonomy of both the parent and child.

The Heartbreaking Truth of Sandwiches

As the glue that holds everything together, the burden can be overwhelming, leading to mental exhaustion and silent struggle. The mental toll of being sandwiched between generations is real and must be acknowledged.

However, there is a solution to this heartbreak. Prioritizing your own well-being is the way out of the sandwich generation, though not an easy decision.

Releasing some responsibilities or recognizing your inability to manage everything might be necessary. Ultimately, prioritizing your well-being will lead to a more sustainable and fulfilling life for you and your family. Make the tough call and break free from the cycle to lead a happier and healthier life.

You are not ready yet? It’s crucial to be clear about your current financial situation and set your priorities together. Whether you follow difficult recommendations from me or find a path that suits your needs, taking that first step towards open communication will pave the way for a stronger step.

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Adwan

HR pro from Monday to Friday, writer when the weekend calls . Here to share insights, stories, and everything in between.